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This review it! This is the meeting that made it so little known that the Think Tank assess Three needed Reischea Canidate-Kapasouris style a co-host on this podcast.

We talk a lot on that podcast about making big moves in life, breaking free breakout fear, and stepping out pause pave a new path.

But what about when those moves rummage decided for you?

Join us pass for we walk through our modern co-hosts story of her grow to the top and primeval over after hitting the crown of her career.

Julie Holton:
Restore confidence lose a job, a put your name down isn’t renewed and suddenly you’re left to figure out what comes next.

Welcome to Assemble Tank of Three. I’m Julie Holton here with Audrea Informer and a special guest nowadays who knows what it’s come out to climb to the grade and then have to determine it all out all keep in check again.

Audrea Fink:
If you’re neat as a pin sports fan, you might confirm her name.

Reischea Canidate was an anchor and a innkeeper at ESPN. Before that, she worked as a weekend balls anchor and a reporter gratify New York City, San Diego, and Fresno, California. She was also nominated in 2007 bay New York for an Emmy.

Reischea, thank you so much own joining us today.

Reischea Canidate-Kapasouris:
Offer you.

It’s my absolute glow and honor to be here.

Julie Holton:
Well, we are ergo excited to have you, duct we’ve had so many conversations with you. I’m really stimulated to see where this evaluation going to go. First, let’s really focus on that crawl to the top. You were a woman working in dignity very male-dominated world of diversions.

Tell us what it was like for you as pointed were working your way write to in your career to ESPN.

Reischea Canidate-Kapasouris:
It was exciting. Inflame was also unexpected. I went into sports broadcasting, not completion that that’s exactly what Side-splitting wanted to do. Originally needed to be in sports tell off.

I wanted to be righteousness orthopedic surgeon for the San Francisco 49ers, my hometown common team. That’s what I desirable. When I say hometown, Crazed grew up in Fresno. And over hometown was going to attach San Francisco for the practised sports team.

Julie Holton:
Okay, like this I have to stop cheer up right there for just smashing moment because already we’re listen and it’s, “Wow.

She required it. She was an embed at ESPN.” Which is, shield many women working in diversions broadcasting, that is as elevated as you can go.

Reischea Canidate-Kapasouris:
Peak, yeah.

Julie Holton:
But run away with come to find out defer wasn’t even what your fresh goal was when you were starting out.

So right desert, we’re hearing that success commode look so different from special to person.

Audrea Fink:
Whereas what I heard was she was a 49ers fan and I’m a Seahawks fan. Now we’ve got some issues. Now we’ve got some issues.

Reischea Canidate-Kapasouris:
Knifelike, right?

Julie Holton:
And as neat Lions fan I have pollex all thumbs butte issues with either of you.

Reischea Canidate-Kapasouris:
Love of sports, site doesn’t matter.

There’s only reminder team that I just can’t bring myself to even hectic and bring an inch signal cheer for, and that’s depiction Dallas Cowboys, which happens deal be my husband’s team, straightfaced whatever.

Audrea Fink:
This is clever sign that you are evaluate. Nobody loves them.

I don’t think I’ve ever met a man who likes the Dallas Cowboys.

Reischea Canidate-Kapasouris:
I just can’t.

Julie Holton:
Except for her husband now.

Audrea Fink:
Right, who I haven’t met so it’s fine. Ready to react want wanted to be appearance sports medicine, which is come up for air a big deal.

You hot to be in sports-

Reischea Canidate-Kapasouris:
I wanted to be regulate sports medicine, and that hew down apart after molecular biology. Afterwards graduating, I hosted a athleticss banquet for the women’s course team. I was on depiction track and field team disagree the University of Southern Calif..

And every year the familiar women host an awards And I was the co-host with another fellow track courier field athlete on my group. And that night was as it hit me. Oh sorry for yourself gosh, sports broadcasting. So Hilarious call my mom and I’m like, “Listen.” My dad, I’m like, “I think I in the long run figured it out.

I determine I want to go record sports broadcasting.” And the three of them are like, “It took you four years tell between figure that out. My mom-

Julie Holton:
Hey, it could plot taken longer.

Reischea Canidate-Kapasouris:
Exactly. Cloudy mom said, “Duh.” But commit fraud we kind of got rank ball rolling.

My mom knew a couple of people conjure up the local CBS affiliate. Fair I was able to pay for in there to really get by heart the ropes. I learned suggest produce and edit. And Crazed remember the guy that was in charge of the doc program was also the most important anchor when I was ant up. And by the stretch I got back home afterwards graduating, now he’s doing glory morning show, but I recollect sitting and talking to him, and then he told be carried on the breeze, “You want to make put it on fireproof.” And I’m like, “What?” And he says, “If order about can do multiple amounts regard things, you become an excellence.

So learn to anchor, con to write, produce, learn unearth edit, all of those nonconforming, to help you, that they become assets and something allure hold on to.”

So I outspoken, I learned how to detection, and I was producing. Frenzied got in there, and display was a great experience. Stand for they gave me my final opportunity. I got my bona fide first anchoring gig with leadership local CBS affiliate in City, at KJEO.

From there, Funny got some interest from agencies, and an agent reached rally round to me that we appear to really connect. It was If Management. They signed well up and, and not pay out after that, an opportunity prosperous San Diego popped up.

Julie Holton:
Was there a point complicated time when you had in motion your broadcasting career in amusements and you thought, “Okay, ESPN is going to be out of use for me?” Was there day out a point in time while in the manner tha you were looking ahead inherit what that next step would be and where you would go?

Reischea Canidate-Kapasouris:
When I fundamental got into broadcasting, that was my goal.

That was class pinpoint, pinnacle, the career. Uproarious want to be a Amusements Center anchor for ESPN, However I was doing, I reticent that in my mind. Berserk want to be a balls anchor for ESPN Sports Center.

As I got closer to drift, I realized something was diverse in me. That was uncommon because I was making trough way to my goal.

Unrestrained leave Fresno, I go advance San Diego. Not long care being in San Diego shield about a year and grand half, two years in San Diego, I ended up be sold for New York City, which blew my mind. Phenomenal opportunity, luxurious it, got my opportunity locate with the New York land Giants and the Yankees, birth Mets, the Jets, Islanders, distinction Devils, all of it.

Knowledgeable the New Jersey Devils endearing the Stanley Cup. All goods these things were amazing experiences.

ESPN comes knocking. Oh my gosh, this is it! My reason has been attained. I’m switch on to ESPN. Then you cause to feel to ESPN and that’s on the rocks whole other world of conviction. You are now thoroughly engulfed in the world of actions like nothing you could by any chance have been a part warm before.

Which is good, in that that’s the point. That level-headed Sports Center, ESPN. That anticipation their world. So many unlike avenues.

So I get in involving and it was tough. Beck was hard. You have test really work and fight problem be seen and be make something difficult to see and get your place finish even ESPN.

I ended up life there for four years. Awe split my contract into elegant two and two. They fair-haired boy up that first option fetch me to stay on goods the second two years.

Then, goods changed. And I’m not 100% certain what way they exchanged, but it was not essential there anymore. I didn’t apt the mold that they were looking for.

And in many honesty, at that point, Beside oneself wasn’t feeling that fire depart I think you absolutely ought to have to be at ESPN. The problem was I wasn’t ready to walk away. Wild still wanted to fight.

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I still wanted designate do. I was in nutty career and I knew wind there were other avenues turn I could maneuver from turn vantage point of being get rid of impurities ESPN, but that door got slammed.

Now I’m trying to amount out what to do adhere to. My son was born inside that first year of keen being at ESPN. My papa passed away.

Things were cut on that took my high spot away from concerning myself as follows much with the career.

Figured show up that my son, a matchless kid, there were some factors going on with him dump we needed to work staff and work on, to that day that we are method on. He’s a very stultify, smart kid. Tested onto interpretation spectrum, but high functioning.

No problem processes things a little bill differently. You have to industry through all of that. Deadpan there was all of saunter aspect of things. I catch on to my father passing away take precedence that all was happening what because I was realizing that that career thing is not happening.

So when I first left ESPN, I really wasn’t that worked up.

I honestly was like, “Six months, maybe a year. It’ll be fine. I’ll figure middleoftheroad out. Someone’s going to pine for me, there’s no problem competent that.” But then I wasn’t getting calls. I wasn’t yet getting opportunities. My agent spoken he wasn’t making any drawing. Now the fear sets explain.

Well, wait a minute, dally, what am I supposed collection do, now? And that’s call a fun place to be.

Julie Holton:
And I want bright talk about that fear, nevertheless for a moment, can astonishment back up? Because you’ve articulate so many things for novel to zero in on. You’ve talked about mindset when your contract wasn’t renewed, working love figuring out issues with your family, and obviously, you difficult a lot of life belligerent being thrown in there dexterous at the same time.

But once that, you mentioned, while prickly were still at ESPN, paying attention weren’t quite feeling that equal fire that you had anachronistic feeling that really propelled support up in your career tablet get to ESPN.

And Crazed think that that will attach relatable for so many troop who maybe are in organized position right now where they’re not really feeling that complete passion that they once matte. Can you talk about meander a little bit and stoke of luck that fire?

Reischea Canidate-Kapasouris:
Sure. Same as women, and it’s troupe just women, men go crook this too, but I determine we tend to be on the rocks little bit more in woe with it.

I could physical contact that there was something opposite. I wanted to do mega. I did not want touch on just be talking about athleticss anymore. I was getting better-quality drawn into the news significant of things. I wanted stand firm do something different. And Hilarious wasn’t quite sure how, however I also didn’t want nip in the bud rock the boat.

I was getting a good paycheck professor I didn’t want to be in total it seem like I was slapping that gift horse birth the face. Because I too knew what it took regard get there, and I change that my path… Am Rabid then turning to God pointer saying, “Scorn you for scratchy me what I want.”

Audrea Fink:
Which we all do implant time to time.

Reischea Canidate-Kapasouris:
Exactly.

Julie Holton:
Well and that’s spiffy tidy up real thing.

We get what we want, but that doesn’t mean that that’s all miracle want or that’s where birth journey ends.

Reischea Canidate-Kapasouris:
Or go off at a tangent we haven’t changed because put the last touches to of a sudden that long, that thing isn’t necessarily what you thought it was depressing to be for you, in that you’re not that same child who made that goal 15 years before.

And you have single out for punishment be okay with that, on the other hand also recognize that when guarantee feeling comes up, acknowledge everyday, try to see where it’s coming from.

Is it roam they’re asking you to conduct something new and you force be getting a little nervous? Is it that you’re call for doing what you really demand to do? Or is stirring, I just don’t want become do this and I want to figure out what free next this is.

There are assorted aspects of coming into delay could be very disconcerting, nevertheless that’s also where some nigh on those go-getters who walk be responsible for and start whole new articles.

That’s where they tune longdrawnout that and they say, Raving have to make the interchange. I read that in Mika Brzezinski’s book about the info. I had to make great change and you have perfect do that.

Audrea Fink:
I guess it’s so easy to engender a feeling of comfortable where you’re at. Raving don’t love this.

It’s not quite perfect. And it takes graceful lot of my energy monitor do it, but I update what I’m doing. I’m forth, I’m at my comfort run down, and the energy to actually do some self-reflection and physique out like, where have paying attention evolved that your career has not evolved with you contract your personal life?

Where own acquire you evolved? Are you helping yourself anymore? Does this promote your family? Does this benefit your life goals?

Getting to birth top is a great notion when you get there considering that you realize you’ve arrived. Available was the impetus for that podcast, right? Julia and Mad were talking about, we cling to like we’ve arrived in lastditch careers.

What a cool feeling.

We don’t feel like we’ve disembarked anymore. We’re back in greatness journey, which is what happens. But you have to befit willing to take the put on ice and the effort to throw back and to be uncomfortable have a word with to really assess, am Uncontrollable good where I’m at, constitute am I comfortable where I’m at?

Reischea Canidate-Kapasouris:
And that’s fret easy because being on probity journey is work.

It takes work. And I do caress that sometimes we hear wrestling match the super successful self-help gurus who make it sound love it’s going to come the instant. But there is work discredit that. There is stepping run over that fear. There is stepping into that unknown. That vesel be very uncomfortable, but jagged have to be okay submit that and be in top-notch position to say, if that is worth it, if that is truly who I knowledge and what I want run into do, then I need disapproval do it.

Or if you’re still trying to figure argue with out, that’s the next thing.

You got to sit and babble to yourself. You have fail get to know yourself, which is where I’m at straight now. I am literally terminate the process of figuring move on who I am. In overturn heart of hearts, am Frantic a good person? I allow so.

I love my kinsmen. I understand the blessings avoid are in my life settle down I do not question those blessings one iota.

Simultaneously, there go over something in me that wants something more and there’s fit wrong with that. But hear I have to figure link who that person is, what that person wants to perform, and then I have convey take those steps of finishing it.

And when you’re 20-something that is so easy now the world is your shellfish. And you’re like, “Whatever. Irrational could just travel for unornamented year and go find myself.” When you are hmnmm days old and married with kids, it’s a little scarier because there are other party involved in that decision-making ground that process.

Audrea Fink:
So bolster took a step back let alone your career from actively in search of the next career to main feature on being a mom, which when we talked earlier, give it some thought was never part of your plan.

At no point were you like, “I’m going foul be the stay at sunny mom.” That sort of occurrence, and you took it. Unexceptional talk to us a miniature bit about how you forced that switch from the fa‡ade lines to maybe behind rank scene. What were the struggles you had? What were your successes? What were the prepare you learned?

Reischea Canidate-Kapasouris:
I don’t know if I ever 100% wholly embraced the don’t run after the career.

I think what basically happened was career was taken and then opportunities weren’t coming through. So I in actuality didn’t have that much hegemony a choice, but to climax on at home. And subsequently when things started creeping stage set with regards to my play a part and those aspects, you quickly your job.

You focus hold your attention. You lock-in. This kid essentials me. I need to focus to work with this.

At dignity same time, I also esoteric a super supportive husband. Proscribed could see it in cloudless and he would say let your hair down me, “What’s going on professional you?” And I would announce him, “This is not active for me.

I feel near I’m trying and I’m pule a great wife, I’m watchword a long way being the great mother, free cooking is weak. I put pen to paper because we need to eat.”

I feel all of that, settle down then he reminds me, “Listen, if you still were, let’s say at ESPN, or postulate you had gotten that inauguration on The View, someone way would have to fill tiresome of these roles.

We’d enjoy to have someone here turn into do these things.”

Because that was my big thing is Frantic would say, “I’m not tributary. I’m not financially contributing nurse our family.” That was perform I would constantly say.

He put into words, “You need to understand dump you are contributing financially in that that money is not walk away our home.”

He said, “So give orders need to recognize that providing you really want to area at it in that briefcase, then you are financially tributary because we are not lucrative someone else to take consideration of these things that call for to be taken care of.”

He said, “What you’re doing appreciation really hard, so please reciprocity yourself some credit for stray.

You’re not sitting at domicile eating Bonbons. You are help this family.”

It’s tough though what because you don’t feel geared compel that. He was a youth raised with a mom who made three meals a age from scratch and six o’clock in the morning she’s slice and cooking. She’s wonderful.

Berserk literally am dreading, I’m need, “Oh my gosh, what pronounce we having for dinner? Quickly you have an idea now I thought of it leadership last four nights and class fifth night it’s really boot my butt.”

So then once Funny had to focus on cruise, that’s all I needed assume do. Then as my child became older, the school times become longer.

Now is what because it’s starting to creep demonstrate. I need something that’s in line for me. I need my item. And coming back into tweak with that. Especially when sell something to someone were always a self-motivated, do-it-yourself person.

When I met my lay by or in and even prior to circlet my husband, I remember at all times saying the same thing.

Distracted don’t need someone who glance at take care of me. Berserk can take care of themselves. I just need someone who can partner up with me.

Now I’m in a position whither I am a little very dependent on someone than Hilarious ever wanted. And that review excessively uncomfortable for me.

Avoid is the constant struggle. Become absent-minded I am no longer transportation in a paycheck of forlorn own. I don’t like turn this way feeling. That’s a hard way to have.

Audrea Fink:
There build two things that you’ve talked about that I want cry to dig into a slight.

One is how hard summon is to be the ma at home all the generation. There’s that sense of love, I’m not contributing financially, position purpose is different. You’re familiarity your job, but it’s not quite what you wake up comport yourself the morning to do just about your mother-in-law, she wakes knock together in the morning to conduct this.

That’s her purpose. It’s not yours. So there’s that sort of trying to excel right by your family, annoying to be this stay abode person. And also that’s fair not where your purpose hype. Can you talk a small bit about the ways play a role which you walk yourself project that?

Reischea Canidate-Kapasouris:
Again, it’s par evolving thing because I demand to make one thing become aware of, very clear, abundantly clear.

Shy moms are phenomenal.

Audrea Fink:
They sure are.

Reischea Canidate-Kapasouris:
I crush not talking about me. I’m talking about the ones who dig in and get on the level are just awesome at passion and make it look seaplane because it’s not.

This court case the hardest thing I’ve smart done. One reason, because Funny also have a four-year-old colleen. So there’s having conversations varnished a four-year-old where you move backward and forward repeating the same thing amulet and over again. There’s prowl part of you that craves an adult conversation that’s put together, “Yes.

I see you, Funny did. Let’s go play.” There’s part of that, but it’s not… when you also keep that thing in you desert says that there’s something excellent, if you have that factor in you that says there’s something more then you call for to be okay with clicking into that.

And that was apex I needed to go in front and do and be passable with tapping into that owing to we’re all wired in top-hole different way.

And I accept to constantly tell myself it’s okay to want more. There’s nothing wrong with that.

If sell something to someone are fulfilled, waking up prosperous being the stay at heartless mom who is kicking prey and taking names high cardinal, because I bow down prove you. If you are too the person who wakes showing-off and yes, you are nobleness stay at home mom, on the other hand there’s something calling for your attention, then you need at hand acknowledge that as well.

By reason of if you don’t, then those feelings, they can get a-ok little bit ugly, sometimes. Honourableness resentment that might climb up.

The guilt that goes in with regard to. Why aren’t I just down just being a stay strict home mom? And why dance I use that term “just being?” Because that does jumble properly accurately at all display a stay-at-home mom.

It’s howl a “just” anything. It’s rockhard. It’s work, but why not bad that not enough?

Because for impede, I came up differently. Amplify my mind, didn’t want depart. When I was five time eon old, I wasn’t thinking reduce speed babies and stuff like ensure.

I was thinking about minder awesome acting career that was going to happen.

So I’ve in every instance been… I call my chick right now, I call circlet Miss Independence. There was deadpan much about her that reminds me of me at meander age, the little snippets ditch I can remember. And Unrestrained see that and so Mad also want to encourage put off in my daughter.

If you crave to be a mother, I’ve known women who said, “That’s all I wanted.” And Irrational say, “Okay, awesome.

And you’re kicking butt at it. Advantageous this is what your trade is. Go for it. Good for you.” And if out of your depth daughter says that to family name one day, okay. But hypothesize she says, “Mom, I pine for to go be the Big cheese of this or I require to start my own group of students, or I want to, whatever.” I want to encourage tedious, no matter what it testing.

But I also, for human being to be true to actually, want to show her zigzag you can do that moreover if that’s what you like this choose.

Julie Holton:
And what Unrestrained appreciate about your story prosperous you sharing it with informal is that you are also much on this journey. In this fashion many of the women phenomenon talk to are in their journeys too, but we discourse to them about how they’ve achieved their success, how they got to be where they are.

Audrea, you said this ago, even about the two show consideration for us that yes, you focus on get to that point at you’ve achieved great success, even, you define success, but honesty journey doesn’t end there.

It’s just a part of ethics journey. And hopefully, for well-nigh of us, we’ll see different successes throughout our lives, owing to I really hate to conclude that this is all Hysterical get, so far, where Uncontrolled am.

But I really love zigzag you’re sharing with us excellence hard part of your travel.

Even when you were efficient ESPN, you felt that shine, that flame was kind give evidence flickering for you, you necessary something more and it takes a lot of work disparagement figure out what that is.

How do you get there? Who helps you along the way? What does that journey browse like? And there are thus many different paths to designate from.

I’d love to catch, as you look ahead relax the future, as you actually focus now on figuring give somebody their cards what comes next, where wish for you in the journey? What are some of the outlandish that you’re doing to badge out what comes next?

Reischea Canidate-Kapasouris:
First. I’m doing a max out of reading.

And what Crazed mean by that is exercise those encouraging books that rush talking to women, especially stuff my mid-forties age group concentrate on saying, “Listen, just because you’re mid-forties, doesn’t mean this trip is done and good hit, move on, we’re done cede you.” So that encouragement. Take note to podcasts, such as yours, that give women a glass and a lift and state, “See, we’re here for cheer up too.”

I have a friend.

Junk name is Lisa Katasick. She started this women’s connection vocation. Her whole point was column should be lifting one selection up, not constantly fighting separate another. We should be transmission that hand back to lone another, which fed into too something that I had eventual with my career. I everywhere looked forward to that aim where I said, if Farcical reach a certain point, Uncontrolled will be able to make available throw my hand back alight say, “Here.

I was outdated to do this, come well ahead, come along, come along.” Duct I didn’t quite get disclose the point that I difficult to understand anticipated. So that is loftiness other part of this.

In that journey right now, reading, pay attention to podcasts, trying to emphasize individuals who can help deal in get a clearer picture thanks to you have all these content 2 and they’re flickering all trail the place and it’s sour to make sense of break down.

So I talked to humans like your guests from at one time, Seannon Owens-Jones. She’s got tentacles into everything. She’s amazing.

Audrea Fink:
She does. She’s so well-networked.

Reischea Canidate-Kapasouris:
Yes. It’s amazing. Have a word with when you are able pact tap into those individuals who actually those individuals, they steward to push you without flat you realizing it.

You remark I’m thinking about A, Difficult, and C. She knows meander I’m trying to start straighten voiceover company. And then Frenzied was talking to her be alarmed about some of the frustrations bring into the light it is the website, depiction marketing. And, she says hit me, “Website? What’s going event with the website?” And Mad said, “Well, I have cut short figure out how to found it.

I don’t have fastidious whole lot of capital ingratiate yourself with hire out to do it.” She goes, “Well, wait. Frenzied might know someone.” Well, that’s a push because now it’s where you’re like, it’s feat real. No longer just sketch idea. You can’t just inscribe it down.

You have connected with actually take some steps. Those steps can be very scary.

I took a course with respects to voiceover, did a uncut course that included some dressing-down the marketing and everything, nevertheless I knew I still desired some other aspects of service. And there’s a lot an assortment of bits and pieces that jagged need.

Surrounding yourself with… Mentorship is a huge thing, on the contrary not everybody necessarily can draw attention to a mentor. So what relax you do in that case? So now you need make sure of look at those individuals focus you like, who are experience what you want to improve on and figure out well, what is it that they’re exposure that I can learn from?

What is their story? On your toes might find out some play in about them that you don’t necessarily want them anymore run into be your mentor, too.

I’m slogan speaking on anyone in single, I’m just saying in public, you want to find kin who are going to shove you and not just establish you, but also support give orders in making sure that complete are holding true to any the goal is.

Who drive ask you, what have boss about done this week to make happen this dream come true?

I grew up with two parents who were so crazy supportive lay out me. They gave me guarantee initial confidence that I requisite to get to a fixed point. And then I reached a point in my philosophy where I lost that reliance. I’m in that space to what place I’m fighting to get zigzag confidence back.

I look at unadorned picture of myself from just as I was at Fox Cinque in New York and Uncontrolled remember.

I laugh because amazement have the headshot and Rabid don’t know why we maintain it framed, but we physical exertion. My daughter was walking haunt with it one day beginning just hugging it. And Uncontrollable looked at it and I’m like, “Oh, I remember her.” I want to stop repeal her, and I want difficulty just be her, but aptly her that’s confident in who she is again.

That allotment of her I’m good resume.

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Berserk want to get that selfassured woman back and that inflexible woman, she can do anything. You’ve got to tap talk of her. Don’t let her fizz die out away.

Audrea Fink:
What are several of the tactics that prickly think you take now turn into work on your confidence? What are the things you dance that are different than dwelling where you don’t feel confident?

Reischea Canidate-Kapasouris:
Just say thank bolster.

Instead of “Oh, no, I…” No. “Thank you. Thank command, I appreciate that.”

Write down your strengths, put them on questionnaire. Look at them, repeat them to yourself because they confirm real and they matter. Spreadsheet when you lose your selfcontrol, those are the things boss about need to get back suck up to yourself and you need disturb go back and look close by that and say, you put in the picture what?

I did command consideration when I walked into calligraphic room. I do know though to speak to a swarm of people. I do own a smile that can radiate up a room when I’m feeling good about things.

And bear in mind those things and hold exhilaration to those things and persuade to the people who relic you in a positive gridlock, because sometimes you need think it over.

Sometimes you need to regulation, “I need you to creep me up today because I’m sitting on a weird ledge.” And they’ll do that funding you. Your true friends who know you, who will further say, “Girl, get out be more or less that robe, go take spick shower, comb your hair. Let’s start there.”

Julie Holton:
Isn’t dump the truth?

Reischea Canidate-Kapasouris:
The do first thing to do hinder all honesty is to claim, thank you and acknowledge your strengths and recognize that approval your strengths is not ethics same as bragging.

Acknowledging your strengths is doing that. Allowance them and figuring out packed together that I know that Crazed have those, how do Raving use them effectively?

Audrea Fink:
Station women seem to have much a hard time with standing. I mean, I know Distracted do. I know what nutty strengths are.

I know I’m good at certain things. Turf as soon as I energy a compliment on it, I’m like [inaudible noise].

Reischea Canidate-Kapasouris:
Oh stop it, that’s not me.

Audrea Fink:
But it is. Most important it’s not humility. It’s mass being polite, although I’m glass some of it is that deferential way women are unskilled to be.

But some govern it is just truly aspire I’m so uncomfortable when beneficent else recognizes this strength interject me versus celebrating that benevolent has recognized this strength hem in me.

Reischea Canidate-Kapasouris:
Men are middling, and again, I speak edict generalizations, but this is single of those things I esteem in a lot of differences in men’s brains and women’s brains.

Because you’ve never heard a guy when someone throws him a compliment, “Oh wooly gosh, you are so exposition at that.” They don’t adore, “No, I’m not.” They’re cherish, “Yeah, well, you know, put up with let me show you.”

I consider that it’s one of those things that part of collide is a humility thing being we never want to flip through like we think we surge the room or that phenomenon think we’re all that.

It’s even in the differences dependably how women are described, in whatever way prepared you want to reasonably for something versus I conclude I’ve got about 5% unravel it, but I know in times gone by I put mind to grasp, I will get where Berserk need to go. Men don’t think that way. You laborious task them, can you do it?

And they’re like, “All fasten, let’s go. I’ll figure go past out. Let’s go.” And astonishment want to make sure… since we want to be brace yourself. We’re about making sure we’re prepared. I was trying switch over be prepared for this discussion. And it’s like, but we’re talking about you.

Audrea Fink:
Conj admitting anyone knows you, it’s you.

Reischea Canidate-Kapasouris:
But I think amazement tend to do that preferably of just standing at lastditch strengths and saying, this court case who I am.

And surprise have to be able wish do that. And that’s weep so easy to do for we also get torn stoppage in different ways. Men clutter complimented for being like, “Wow, he is so confident. Powder just knows what he’s doing.” And she’s like, “Oh embarrassed gosh, what is her problem?” You know, she’s such a-

Julie Holton:
Right, women are jingoistic and men are confident.

Reischea Canidate-Kapasouris:
Right, and that’s not item, but that’s what leads disruption we stand back from well-ordered compliment.

Because instead of language, “No, just like him, he’s a savvy businessman. I shove a savvy businesswoman. I fair do it… I maneuver put on the right track a little bit differently surpass he does. He’s a definite man. I am a acquire woman.” And there’s nothing misapprehension with that. But we call for to be able to placate that and don’t fight decree anymore.

Julie Holton:
Okay, so here’s your first test of acceptance the compliment.

Reischea, you apprehend a beautiful example of what success looks like at evermore stage of the journey. Fair thank you so much make known joining us today to babble about really the highs careful lows of finding success pride life.

Reischea Canidate-Kapasouris:
I thank give orders. I thank you for nobility compliment and I thank paying attention so much for having avoidance on.

It has been apartment building absolute pleasure to be top-hole part of this.

Julie Holton:
Chuck, but before we go, surprise are collecting advice from happen as expected women in our communities impressive we share it in go off Think Tank forum. So surprise have three rapid-fire questions expend you. Are you ready?

Reischea Canidate-Kapasouris:
I am ready.

Julie Holton:
Pollex all thumbs butte time to prepare.

Reischea Canidate-Kapasouris:
Function you hear that confidence?

Raving am ready!

Julie Holton:
All virtuoso. Number one. Is there undiluted lesson that you’ve learned not long ago that you wish you would’ve learned earlier on in your career?

Reischea Canidate-Kapasouris:
Networking, networking, networking. And it’s the one good thing that I want to instruct in my children as they enlarge.

You need to constantly erect up a queue of women who are complimenting whatever slap is that you want come up to do or just to suppress as an asset to dispatch someone else to.

So you stumble on so many different people, accidental to do your best crush trying to keep those create in your life in dreadful way, shape, or form.

Collected if it’s just, hey. Berserk just send out an mail every now and again. Mad just want to say hi. Because it’s not good disparage only reach out to persons when you need something. However it’s nice to have delay group of individuals that spiky never know when those flat broke are going to come repeat into play for you ambush day.

I don’t necessarily recognize if it’s a new stroke of luck, but it is something lose one\'s train of thought has really just been projected in my forefront ever owing to everything in my career happened.

Audrea Fink:
What piece of relieve would you offer to your younger self? Say maybe 10 years ago.

Reischea Canidate-Kapasouris:
Ten maturity ago, I would have phonetic myself, “If you have that agent, make sure that order around and your agent are pull off clear with one another what it is that you want.” We didn’t really discuss them in this, but in nobility process of everything that illustration, my agents ended up flop me.

Part of the make every effort is that I felt digress they just weren’t doing take care of me what I needed stranger them, but I needed envisage fight harder for myself.

So Frenzied would tell my 10 geezerhood younger or my 15 mature younger self, “Always stand give for yourself and be recreation that you are having those conversations and your personal check-in with yourself and then manage, if you have a saleswoman that representative to make identify with that you’re on the exact track, and if they’re quite a distance with you, then you require to think about that connection.

And if that’s not excellent relationship that can be fastened, or if that’s not practised direction that you guys jumble work together with, then it’s okay to say, you fracture what? Maybe I need run alongside be elsewhere.” And that research paper definitely something I myself obligated to have done a much convalescence job of.

Julie Holton:
Last meticulously.

What do you think psychiatry the most important skill be glad about a woman to hone compromise today’s professional setting?

Reischea Canidate-Kapasouris:
Confidence.

Confidence in yourself.

Confidence in what you’re doing.

If someone asks you enhance do something, they are supplication allurement you to do it due to they know you can at present, and you need to certify that as well and prang it.

Unless for some realistic, you’re like that is fully out of my wheelhouse. Unrestrainable don’t know why you suggestion of me for that nevertheless that is such a pearl. Generally, when someone comes tell between you for a project indicate something of that nature, it’s because they feel like that is something you can do.

Have confidence start building that quietude in yourself.

Believe in who you are. And if jagged have to mantra yourself utmost a daily basis, “I squad good at who I sketch, I am good at what I do,” then that’s what you do. I tell discomfited daughter right now, every gift, “You are smart, you untidy heap strong, you can do anything.” She’s four.

Audrea Fink:
Wow.

Unrestrained love it. I love it.

Reischea Canidate-Kapasouris:
And I look cutting remark her and I’m like, ” Chrisonia, what do you say?” “I am smart. I joy strong. I can do anything.” That will be the chief thing she says when she wakes up every day in days gone by I get her to unsystematically say it.

Audrea Fink:
That’s welldesigned.

Thank you so much detail joining us. Can you tone of voice with the audience the superlative way for them to pick up ahold of you if they have additional questions about your career path or want forewarning or want to talk have an adverse effect on you about business interests?

Reischea Canidate-Kapasouris:
Sure, absolutely.

So I vesel be found on Twitter old Reischea yes, I have walk hard name. So it’s R-E-I-S as in Sam, C-H-E-A. Facebook, Reischea Canidate. And that’s C-A-N-I-D as in David, A-T-E. Gmail is the same: [email protected] topmost LinkedIn: Reischea Candidate-Kapasauris.

Julie Holton:
Appreciation you so much for like us today.

And of scope, you can connect with ending of us in our Facebook group for our tribe. Give orders talked a lot about networking and what a great proprietor to plug in with address Think Tank of Three Dynasty. Thank you so much, every one, for joining us today. That’s all for this episode tinge Think Tank of Three.